need some advice/encouragement from you guys

[bright maroon]

..make her give him up before you procede

put her on a shelf until she does...

that's a maybe with baggage..

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[stephisaint]

I wouldn't go there.

If she actually isn't messing you about and dumps her current boyfriend, it's extremely likely she'll blame you for "making" her split up with him anytime you do anything wrong in the future. Guilt trip ahoy.
If she is messing you about, then thats bad enough in itself.

Although, you could turn the whole situation to your advantage; go out more, find someone fitter, make her jealous, and she'll definately want to be with you.

[Dead Rats]

If you tell her how you feel, she's going to dis you bad and reject you. Then she'll tell her friends and everyone in the class will know and then you'll feel like a sucka', sucka'.

[gettingcolder]

Before I give my little advice, I need to make some general remarks. I strongly believe that human minds are quite complicated and blurred. Not blurred as in 'being completely unaware or even unconscious of what they feel' but that the way the world and other people are represented in their minds cannot be pinned down in simple sentences. So there might be different (seemingly contradictory) desires and intentions present at the same time, the constellation even changing a bit from hour to hour or day to day: being flattered, wanting to seduce, simply enjoying your company with no sexual undertone, being focused on sex, liking you a bit, liking you very much, thinking about leaving her boyfriend for you, thinking you are too pushy, worrying about you not being genuinely interested, and so on and so on.
Try to get a feeling for those maybe shifty tendencies, and don't be too pushy. It takes time. Just show her that you like her but not in a threatening all-or-nothing sort of way. So I would not right now ask her what's going on and explain how you feel. Might be much too early and scare her off. People like the idea that there is some freedom left in the 'object'.

I'd never have thought that I would one day post things like this on a dubstep forum
I'm a girl by the way.

[capo ultra]

Just smash it. Simple

[gwa]

shank her bf. Shank her. Shank yersen. Only optionto get out of this situation... honestly

[kay]

Have you considered that she wants a threesome but doesn't have the guts to ask?

Go on. Be a man. Ask her.

[the acid never lies]

Before I give my little advice, I need to make some general remarks. I strongly believe that human minds are quite complicated and blurred. Not blurred as in 'being completely unaware or even unconscious of what they feel' but that the way the world and other people are represented in their minds cannot be pinned down in simple sentences. So there might be different (seemingly contradictory) desires and intentions present at the same time, the constellation even changing a bit from hour to hour or day to day: being flattered, wanting to seduce, simply enjoying your company with no sexual undertone, being focused on sex, liking you a bit, liking you very much, thinking about leaving her boyfriend for you, thinking you are too pushy, worrying about you not being genuinely interested, and so on and so on.
Try to get a feeling for those maybe shifty tendencies, and don't be too pushy. It takes time. Just show her that you like her but not in a threatening all-or-nothing sort of way. So I would not right now ask her what's going on and explain how you feel. Might be much too early and scare her off. People like the idea that there is some freedom left in the 'object'.

I'd never have thought that I would one day post things like this on a dubstep forum
I'm a girl by the way.

I find myself agreeing with this the most.

Be careful when taking 'advice' from people who don't have the insight you do - everyone's experience and opinion is going to be different, there certainly isn't a prescribed thing to do.

Just to counterbalance all the pessimism, I have been in a similar situation you are in only she nor I (at least I don't think) intended on us developing any kind of romantic relationship.

Since I feel obliged to say how I'd play it anyway, I certainly wouldn't try to make her 'explain herself' or put all your cards on the table, all things considered especially if she has conflicting feelings, which is quite likely.

[NilsFG]

Feelings FTL, they hurt

[defekt]

You're best off just asking her what's going on and explaining how you feel.

Yea just ask, but in a nice way. Then if she gets all mardy then fuck it, she's not worth it. If you don't want to ask then all you can do is remain being her friend and fantasizing about her fanny or... not, and that's that, but whatever you do don't just start ignoring her and don't keep getting led on by her.

Edit: Shit I just wrote that without realising there was a second page

[the artful dodger]

so theres this girl

Lol the line used in every generic love film. Yeah if she has a bf and she is flirting she's a cock dont bother falling in love and shit becuase she will ceat on you two and you will be left fucked, try and think if you where her BF and you found out she was doing that. Go get yourself a girl that is faithful. Hope this helps ya, if your already in love with her (it sounds like your falling) you could go for it, but there might be conciqence's. Its a flip of a coin choice, i advise you dont flip a coin on it though think long and hard, have a wank whatever.

[the acid never lies]

if she has a bf and she is flirting she's a cock

not so black and white imo - this doesn't make her by default untrustworthy / a bad person

[bass hertz]

1. fuck her
2. take video
3. post on DSF

[siberia]

some good advice in here, thanks everyone. i'm just going to be her friend and if she continues to act interested, at the right time i'll tell her how i feel.

[siberia]

1. fuck her
2. take video
3. post on DSF

haha i wish

[siberia]

by the way, i will be updating this thread as the days go by with breaking news

[dr ddd]

You might want to start hanging around with a few people outside of your classes, though. I mean, I don't know shit, but I'd imagine an astronomy class to be full of prudes and, generally, not much game pussy.

i did astronomy.... you have just wounded me to the core dead rats and i may never recover

siberia - you deserve to be treated with respect and if you do see a future in this, it's got to start on the right foot. talk to her and see what she says. she needs to be honest with you, her boyfriend and herself if she's interested in you - otherwise dont go there, there are many more girls out there, and you should be with someone who treats you fairly. she may just be wanting to be mates and is naturally flirty, i hav a few mates like that and it can give out mixed signals, but you wont know unless you talk to her.

[djelements]

by the way, i will be updating this thread as the days go by with breaking news

Wiggle Baron?

[sigbowls]

by the way, i will be updating this thread as the days go by with breaking news

Wiggle Baron?

[evil madmen]

ah to be 15 again