Does this make me a bastard?

[kay]

She aint jail bait :p

Then you must be very old.

He always goes on about how old he is mate.

[firky]

She aint jail bait :p

Then you must be very old.

Touché

[honey-d]

I think Valentine's night should just be all the guys getting together to get drunk and cry/complain about their situation. Seriously, I'm single for so many Valentine's days and I'm miserable, but most of the time where I have a GF I'm fucking miserable too cause I don't do something right. It's a fuckin damned if you do and damned if you don't kinda thing. Single or not, Valentines day is no fun.

[ahier]

Forgot I posted all this

Secondly, I don't think either of you are right. 6 months into a relationship, I'd call that fairly serious. That's a lot of time for someone to devote to being with someone and to just say...'I am having a bit of fun, if we break up then so be it' would piss any girl off regardless of age, experience or however long you've been going out.

Nah, I don't agree. Six months is hardly any time at all, not when you've been in a LTR, plus I have been in similar relationships in the past and that agreement has been pretty much the unwritten agreement. The girl that first took me to FWD and introduced me to Ikonika was just a fling, we went together for a few months and if anything happened so be it! I don't think it is exclusively a female or an age thing, I just think it's more to do with experience, the more people you go out with the more you become detached. There isn't a person on this forum who has not mistaken infatuation for love.

the way you live your life isn't the same as the way others live theres, especially if they're only young!

Very fair and salient point but you should also accept people for what they are, warts and all. IMO it's a bad relationship if you're saying, "Oh I love her / him, it's just I wish he'd change......" and in my previous role you'd hear the same line from people who were the victims of domestic abuse (physical and emotional). One thing that I did learn there is you accept people how they are or it builds up resentment and before you know it you could be sat in front of someone like me or packing your bags.


She aint jail bait :p

What you say about mistaking infatuation for love is true, i'm sure we have all done it, but its hard to tell at the time. i mean in both my last long term relationships i thought it was love when, in retrospect, it really wasnt. At the time though, i couldnt tell that. So now im in something else where i think its love again, how can i tell whether its real or just the same making myself believe its real?
I guess the thing is not to over think it and just see what happens, luckily i have someone who doesnt fall into stereotypical over emotional over thinking girl patterns so i dont have to worry about it so much. If anything, im the woman of the relationship. which is great fun.

edit - oh yeah, no it doesnt make you a bastard

[wub]

nope

she's being a dick, fuck being with anyone that wants to watch marley and me.

Book was better, plus less Wilson mugging.

[LA_Boxers]

You're not a bastard because I pretty much do the same thing. I've spent enough time trying to find 'the one' that i entered a relationship that i wouldnt usually do, and am really enjoying it and we really are getting alot closer now and im happy (most of the time).

Dont lie........they'll hate that just as much!lol.

[skevin]

Its all good. I managed to argue with my missus all over the weekend before valentines. Valentines day was awkward (and equally shit).

Relationships are rubbish.

[belalala]

i think what you lads need is a "ninja ladies give love advice" thread where you can lament about how your testosterone makes you incompatible with all of the estrogen rage that we can wield on you at times, and then i/we (lace, dutchstep, where you at?) translate for you. reading through all of your lady problems makes me feel bad for your miscommunications :/

that being said i can see where both of you are coming from. firky, what you said about nothing being universally true for gender and age is true, but personally if i devoted six months of my time to a relationship and the guy told me it was nothing serious i might be a little peeved... IF i hadn't been on that same page from the beginning. communication is key man, and FUCK marley & me. i don't blame you. how old is this chick?

i tend to be on the same page as you regarding taking the present for what it is, but if you're dating someone who's not of the same mindset on these things then you're gonna leave a bit of destruction in your misunderstood wake.

[kay]

If the two of you have been together for 6 months and still haven't worked out the basis of your relationship yet, then it's just bloody lust, not love, ainit.

[Pistonsbeneath]

i had to go cinema to watch marley and me and went for a walk around the cinema for at least 40 mins to get away from it and used the excuse that id gone for a shit as my stomach was upset

[nilo]

i had to go cinema to watch marley and me and went for a walk around the cinema for at least 40 mins to get away from it and used the excuse that id gone for a shit as my stomach was upset

your a bigger man than me! i flatly refused to go see it which resulted in two days of celibacy.