Actually usually the egg and sperm meet in the ovary, and then the fertilized egg makes it's way to the uterus where it implants.... Given that approximately 50% of pregnancies end up in spontaneous abortions I can't actually give a flying fuck about a bunch of cells inside my girl.kingGhost wrote:feelings? i'm sorry that having a baby might hurt your feelings. wouldn't want to inconvenience anyone's life... damn.. that fucking baby should have thought twice before trying to fuck up someone's life by being conceived. what a thoughtless fucking baby. i mean really, how dare that egg and that sperm take it upon themselves to meet inside of the woman's uterus, creating life? i've never heard of anything so rude. i mean, this young couple is just going bout their business and all of a sudden this fetus comes along out of NOWHERE and tries to barge into their lives. i mean, these people are busy with... you know, work... and stuff. and there's a lot of stamps on their passport they need to get. it would really hurt their feelings to have to take care of a kid, especially when that kid just all of a sudden jumped up and created itself. right?magma wrote:I'm just surprised that people find it so easy to put the feelings of an actual functioning life above that of a possible one. I like real people.kingGhost wrote:no i mean that was my original point, which sd5 understood, and he was the one who the comment was directed to.
also, abortion being the most effective form of birth controlmagma you truly are off base there my friend.
let's kill it.
If you think about it, the ethical thing in most cases is actually to abort the fetus, especially if it's an unwanted pregnancy. If a couple can't properly take care of a baby for it's lifetime then they certainly shouldn't try having a kid because "it's the right thing to do." I've seen the result of that in clinic all too often, kids with FASD, intellectual disability from substance abuse and babies born with neural defects because the parents don't actually give a fuck, they just want to give birth because they are supposed to and because the fetus has rights. Even worse is when a kid comes in with abuse from neglect, because the parents actually can't be fucked to find some proper nutrition, because they didn't want it in the first place. Kids end up completely fucked over, and in many cases I figure that they would have been better off if the parents did the responsible thing and aborted them.
On the original question, you've got to evaluate where your priorities are and what makes you happy. It is your life, and in the end it's important that you do what makes you happy.
For me, family is extremely important, and I take what they say pretty seriously. I find that hanging out with my family provides me with more satisfaction than anything else in life, and I would quite enjoy starting my own when the time is right.
However, I have quite a few friends who aren't so keen on family, it's down the list on what makes them happy. For them, family not approving of what they do isn't as huge a deal as it would be for me.
It sounds like it has to do with starting a family/getting married/having kids, and that's a huge thing in your life. If that's a direction you want your life to take, then by all means, kill two birds with one stone. But if that's not on your radar at all then try not to worry about what your family says.
I think I'm just talking in circles, must be the Laphroaig for the evening. But just take some time and figure it for yourself, don't let other people tell you what's appropriate or not for your life. You're the one living it after all.
