Ok, maybe using the word 'mental' in that context was a tad insensitive given that she did actually have pretty serious mental health issues and has spent about a month in a mental health clinic... That said, when finding an ex hding in your garden your first thought isn't usually "I feel sorry for her, must be a really bad situation she's in", it's "fuck me, that's absolutely bloody mental!"dubfordessert wrote:people who are "insane" are usually like that for a good reason, and are probably actually ill. i get the whole thing that mental people are stressful to know, believe me, but have known many people who would have done this sort of thing at some point or another and they have almost always been through serious shit and have serious illnesses.
and sometimes people do "mental" things to exes who are the REAL mental ones and who were seriously abusive but have managed to make it seem to everyone that their victim is crazy... and eventually, that comes true. have even thought it myself of people who couldn't let it go when i didn't know the real extent of things that have happened.
anyways its possible for these people to get help and get better. it's really shit being on the receiving end of something you didn't start, and you dont have an obligation to help people you know that are in these shitty places. usually it's impossible for you to help that person given all the baggage and the need to keep yourself sane and live your own life. they need professional help often. but i can't help feeling deep sympathy for them.
Didn't really see the relevance of the spousal abuse bit though and tbh SHE actually used to hit ME all the fucking time, i once got punched in the nose because i refused to propose to her
