Dropping out of uni...need advice.

nubble · Post by **nubble** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:26 pm

Well basically I've already been kicked out once due to low attendance but managed to get myself back in (I've been seeing a counsellor about motivational problems).

Im pretty sure there is no way I can carry on this course this year (its a 2 year course and I started it in september), so i guess my options are to either:

A. Drop out for good

or

B. Try and defer till next year.

My problems at the moment are that I'm not sure if it is the course for me and I'm stuck with what to tell my parents (they are likely to not understand whats been going on).

Any ideas on how I can soften the blow to my parents?

Thanks in advance...Bob.

ytee · Post by **ytee** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:27 pm

If it's not the right program for you....drop it...but find something you do like.

the wiggle baron · Post by **the wiggle baron** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:28 pm

Over to shonky.

badger · Post by **badger** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:29 pm

exact same problem i had. mainly due to cowardice i just went back and did my degree in four years instead of three. just scraped through by keeping on claiming i was depressed even when i was fine but very lazy. not proud of it but worked out

if you really aren't enjoying it then your motivational problems aren't going to get better. mine certainly didn't

just depends if you think you can stick it out really. be silly to go back and then end up dropping out

pk- · Post by **pk-** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:31 pm

yeah if you don't enjoy it, it'll be pointless to carry on. there's not really much your parents can say to that.

to be honest it's your choice, not theirs. if you don't mind me asking are you paying your own way or are they stumping the cost of most of it? cause i had a few mates who were in the latter situation and had a similar problem to you, but they eventually bit the bullet and explained what was going on and were much better off for it (one of them's now halfway through a masters in the subject he switched to)

pk- · Post by **pk-** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:34 pm

also, there's not a day goes by that i don't bemoan the amount of opportunities i squandered to learn new stuff at uni. i spent most of my 1st & 2nd year lean off my face too paranoid to go to tutorials & nearly got kicked off.

even if you're not going to follow a particular career path related to the degree you do, if you can afford it i reckon it's worth sticking the whole 3 years.

badger · Post by **badger** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:37 pm

pk- wrote:also, there's not a day goes by that i don't bemoan the amount of opportunities i squandered to learn new stuff at uni. i spent most of my 1st & 2nd year lean off my face too paranoid to go to tutorials & nearly got kicked off.

even if you're not going to follow a particular career path related to the degree you do, if you can afford it i reckon it's worth sticking the whole 3 years.

yeah i've got so many regrets about how i treated uni. wasted so much time and so many opurtunities. oh well can't change that now

datura · Post by **datura** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:39 pm

pk- wrote:also, there's not a day goes by that i don't bemoan the amount of opportunities i squandered to learn new stuff at uni. i spent most of my 1st & 2nd year lean off my face too paranoid to go to tutorials & nearly got kicked off.

even if you're not going to follow a particular career path related to the degree you do, if you can afford it i reckon it's worth sticking the whole 3 years.

same, i only pulled it together in my final year as i had no money so couldn't afford to get mashed

i know a few people who switched courses, if you do just make sure that it is what you want to do, and not want to change again as it won't look good for prospective employers.

djake · Post by **djake** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:44 pm

i now know not to get wasted to much at uni if i go that is

badger · Post by **badger** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:45 pm

djake wrote:i now know not to get wasted to much at uni if i go that is

part of the experience though isn't it. just about getting the right balance

djake · Post by **djake** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:48 pm

badger wrote:
djake wrote:i now know not to get wasted to much at uni if i go that is
part of the experience though isn't it. just about getting the right balance

i would rather learn at uni than get wasted

hang over i hate em the reason i hardly ever drink

ytee · Post by **ytee** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:49 pm

badger wrote:
djake wrote:i now know not to get wasted to much at uni if i go that is
part of the experience though isn't it. just about getting the right balance

I fucked up my first semester so bad, came back in the second one(sober) and got a's and b's...they shouldn't even count your first semester....you need that time to meet friends and get wasted.

badger · Post by **badger** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:50 pm

this is going to sound cheesy but for me the most important part of uni was the whole "university of life" aspect. came out of uni a vastly changed (and in my opinion improved) person. yeah the educational aspect is important but there's lots more to it as well

nubble · Post by **nubble** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:51 pm

Hmm...

My problem is though, that all I have done is computing...

If I don't do this course then I have no idea what I should do.

I think that i'd prefer to do hardware...but...im not sure.

It's all fucked up basically.

How do I go about deciding what I want to do with my life from scratch?

djake · Post by **djake** » Mon Jan 21, 2008 11:54 pm

Nubble wrote:Hmm...

My problem is though, that all I have done is computing...

If I don't do this course then I have no idea what I should do.

I think that i'd prefer to do hardware...but...im not sure.

It's all fucked up basically.

How do I go about deciding what I want to do with my life from scratch?

do u av any other qualifications in computing? first diploma i.t??? national diploma?

edit : if ur from the states then u wont no what im on about

nubble · Post by **nubble** » Tue Jan 22, 2008 12:00 am

I have a level 3 btec *as an IT practitioner*

I'm only on a foundation degree (Networked Systems).

So basically the first term does count...and I've fucked it up (and possibly missed an exam and am maybe about to miss some more).

djake · Post by **djake** » Tue Jan 22, 2008 12:08 am

there are still loads of options in I.T.

peroberly best to ask some one who know whats out there really

i currently doin first diploma in I.T....n my leactures are always talkin about these endless possiblitys that are there.

nubble · Post by **nubble** » Tue Jan 22, 2008 12:12 am

Yeah...but im not too sure that I want to have anything to do with them to be honest.

Programming I wouldnt mind doing...but theres so much bureaucratic bullshit paper work to do (atleast, to get the qualification in the first place).

Give me a problem and i'll give you the answer.

But still anyhow...telling my parents is going to suck balls.

They live on the isle of wight and im here in brighton for uni. Fuck going back there, its a shit hole.

thesynthesist · Post by **thesynthesist** » Tue Jan 22, 2008 12:35 am

i dropped out of college after almost a year, and really regretted it.

Taking the time off was the best thing ever, but not being able to go back wasnt as devastating until years later, when i realized that i should have stuck with it...

It sucks to be in a shit job, and think back to all the chances you had to avoid it.

nubble · Post by **nubble** » Tue Jan 22, 2008 12:41 am

I dont want to finish my higher/further eductation...

I'm just stuck not know whether its the right thing for me to do at the moment...computing I mean.

Why couldn't I be good at something else

?

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