Marriage

showguns · Post by **showguns** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 7:31 pm

unklefesta wrote:
Delendi wrote:i'm just not a relationship person.
I recently gave myself over to this train of thought...

then I found an awesome girl to spend my quality time with

f**king universe is strange

next stop: marriage!

FSTZ · Post by **FSTZ** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 7:33 pm

showguns wrote:
unklefesta wrote:
Delendi wrote:i'm just not a relationship person.
I recently gave myself over to this train of thought...

then I found an awesome girl to spend my quality time with

f**king universe is strange
next stop: marriage!

LMAO

nope!

she is also recently divorced and I seriously doubt she's even entertaining the thought

deamonds · Post by **deamonds** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 7:42 pm

Delendi wrote:i'm just not a relationship person.

amen. i like being a 'loner'

Jubz · Post by **Jubz** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 8:54 pm

amykamala wrote:
z.u.bee wrote:
Jubscarz wrote:One of my exes got engaged last year, I think the stretch of her ambition is to get married, have a kid and stay at home with it, thus avoiding having to work.
it seems that a lot of girls think this way, whatever happened to equality???
i wanna stay at home and look after the kids...
ie: watch ricky lake..

staying at home to take care of the fam and home doesn't make someone any less equal. managing a household and raising children is really a full time job, plus some. and if you can afford it, it's WAY better for the kids. I, for one, do not want my children raised by a nanny while i'm at work all day. it's all about having the choice to live your life as fulfills you anyway. and if taking care of your family is what fulfills you, then that's that.

There's a difference between what you just said and being a dumb bitch who wants to have a kid so she can sponge off the state and not have to work.

shonky · Post by **shonky** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 9:08 pm

[b]Disgusted Jubscarz from Daily Mail Land[/b] wrote:There's a difference between what you just said and being a dumb bitch who wants to have a kid so she can sponge off the state and not have to work.

Most people would rather not work surely. It's a shame that they have to introduce a kid into the world to do it. Do some checks on the amount of childcare the government will subsidise per kid for working parents, tax credits, etc, and it probably works out cheaper to have the mothers unemployed living in a council property.

Jubz · Post by **Jubz** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 9:40 pm

Shonky wrote:
[b]Disgusted Jubscarz from Daily Mail Land[/b] wrote:There's a difference between what you just said and being a dumb bitch who wants to have a kid so she can sponge off the state and not have to work.
Most people would rather not work surely. It's a shame that they have to introduce a kid into the world to do it. Do some checks on the amount of childcare the government will subsidise per kid for working parents, tax credits, etc, and it probably works out cheaper to have the mothers unemployed living in a council property.

I don't care about that, I was just venting. She has a degree in Fine Art and a lot of potential but no ambition, wasted potential.

amykamala · Post by **amykamala** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 9:57 pm

i fear that is what ppl say about me. degree in fine arts (or 2) and wasted potential

dubluke · Post by **dubluke** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 9:59 pm

don't doubt yaself amy, also its kinda weird for me, i ain't scared of commitment but then i'm not keen on marriage either

Littlefoot · Post by **Littlefoot** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 10:01 pm

in a country where couples who live together get the same rights, unless you have lots of money to burn and a traditional family..

kinda pointless

amykamala · Post by **amykamala** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 10:16 pm

dubluke wrote:don't doubt yaself amy

:*

jred · Post by **jred** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 10:27 pm

kids = work

trust me on this anyone with kids would probably rather be at work at times . besides personaly i think bringing up kids is very abitious ,you start with a baby that knows nothing you teach it all the things you take for granted ,talking ,walking , eating ,shitting , burping , interacting, playing... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ...
and it requires constant supervision that alone can be very tiring ,only takes a second for a baby ta fuck it self up or even die and aside from that leave a kid alone your bound ta have a massive mess to clean
(left my 2 yearold unattended for about 5mins one day he found a container of butter and spread it all over the floor proper tnuc of a thing ta clean up)

slothrop · Post by **slothrop** » Tue Apr 01, 2008 2:27 am

deamonds wrote:you cant be happy still after 5 years surely not???...maybe commitment suits some people and not others

It's not really been a commitment, though, it's not like helping someone move house or something. We've just not got bored or pissed off with each other.

rickyricardo · Post by **rickyricardo** » Tue Apr 01, 2008 3:10 am

all displays of love are extraneous. You don't have to kiss, hold-hands, write letters, to be in love w/ someone, either.....but people still do it anyway.

Marriage is a symbolic act like any other.

rickyricardo · Post by **rickyricardo** » Tue Apr 01, 2008 3:42 am

amykamala wrote:
staying at home to take care of the fam and home doesn't make someone any less equal. managing a household and raising children is really a full time job, plus some. and if you can afford it, it's WAY better for the kids.

Agreed 100%

...and that's one of the things that scares me about having children. I think lack of parental presence in those early years of life has fucked up many generations of kids since the advent of the "working family". I'm not one to believe that daycare is as good as parental care, and it's disturbing to me how much earlier in life children are being put into daycare.

While I'm not advocating for some kind of return to the domesticated housewife of 50 years ago, there should at least be some recognition about the importance of parental presence in early childhood development. What's unfortunate is that (in this country, anyway) the deck is stacked against single-income families, and even if people wanted to spend time with their children, it's financially unrealistic unless one partner is bringing in a substantial amount of income.

..and that's not even to mention that this country still has no mandated paternal leave.

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