love

bellybelle · Post by **bellybelle** » Tue Aug 26, 2008 1:17 pm

BEN? wrote:if you are in a relationship, do you think it is wrong to want to change your partner?
my ex would annoy me so much by not saying much. she wouldn't start a conversation ever and it was on my shoulders to stop the awkward silences and be interesting all the time.
in the end i just said to her, look can't you just bee more chatty? and she replied with, 'Ben, you can't change me, if you don't like how i am then we shouldn't be in a relationship' and fucked off.
i just thought that was bullshit. might i add that i was her first boyfriend. and she was 15.

well....why would you want to change the person you found? do you only like them as far as the plans you have for them or do you honestly like the person they are?

so many relationships fail because one or two of the members have unrealistic expectations and hope to change the partner. You could avoid a lot of heartache by finding the person you want instead of trying to find one and make that person what you want.

she might be young but if she understands just that small thing about relationships, she's miles ahead of some of her older single competition.

tempest · Post by **tempest** » Wed Aug 27, 2008 3:37 am

Yeah that is truely amazing that she came out with "you can't change me, if you don't like how i am then we shouldn't be in a relationship"

Tis a good thing for you and her mate, you'll find someone much more suited without the wasted time now

nousd · Post by **nousd** » Wed Aug 27, 2008 7:31 am

^Yep
the other trap is feeling obligated:
I'd better solve his/her problems or I'm not committed.
Yeah, like that's gunna work...
or lead to lots of exasperation on your part
and ultimate resentment on theirs.

surious lurve · Post by **surious lurve** » Wed Aug 27, 2008 12:08 pm

Love is the most important thing in the world... without it our lives would not be complete. We Lurve love.

kamala · Post by **kamala** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:00 am

i know i give my words for free
you think your treatment was the same
but no matter what you say to me
i’ll never soil your name

words are words,
i was having fun
but when it comes to giving love
you’re the only one.

i wish that you could feel me
and know that i am true
i may have been real friendly,
but i just wanted you.

i wish that you would let me in
i don’t know how to prove
that you’re the only place i’ve been
is there nothing i can do ?

you said you didn't want me
it made me feel so bad
so i went on a flirting spree
you’re right, that is just sad.

i never thought we could be more, see
from day one you said no way
then you seemed to change your story
once it was too late

hear me out please,
i’m just a girl
my feelings seize me
in a mental whirl

im scared to fall
to fall for you.
and at the end of it all
i’d rather lose

pain is somewhere
i have made my home
love is something
i can never own

love is the one thing
i have never known
it’s just much safer
to be alone.

nousd · Post by **nousd** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 5:09 am

So, do you want him back or in acceptance of loss?

kamala · Post by **kamala** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 5:31 am

i never stopped wanting him.

not really sure tbh . certainly letting go is a good idea tho

misk · Post by **misk** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 6:52 am

hi all! just stoppin by here. this thread is heavy. I'm in love with my bike. women can go to hell as far as im concerned...

daydreamingjerk · Post by **daydreamingjerk** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 2:43 pm

Misk wrote:hi all! just stoppin by here. this thread is heavy. I'm in love with my bike. women can go to hell as far as im concerned...

and on that note: i'm in love buying shit i don't need. men can go to hell as far as i'm concerned.

elbe · Post by **elbe** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:17 pm

daydreamingjerk wrote:
Misk wrote:hi all! just stoppin by here. this thread is heavy. I'm in love with my bike. women can go to hell as far as im concerned...
and on that note: i'm in love buying shit i don't need. men can go to hell as far as i'm concerned.

YEAH, I love drinking, my whole life can go to hell as far as I'm concerned

daydreamingjerk · Post by **daydreamingjerk** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:18 pm

eLBe wrote:
daydreamingjerk wrote:
Misk wrote:hi all! just stoppin by here. this thread is heavy. I'm in love with my bike. women can go to hell as far as im concerned...
and on that note: i'm in love buying shit i don't need. men can go to hell as far as i'm concerned.

YEAH, I love drinking, my whole life can go to hell as far as I'm concerned

Hence the shirt I'm wearing in my avatar. I kid!

badger · Post by **badger** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:22 pm

Misk wrote:hi all! just stoppin by here. this thread is heavy. I'm in love with my bike. women can go to hell as far as im concerned...

this is you isn't it?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/scotland/gla ... 095134.stm

bellybelle · Post by **bellybelle** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:44 pm

i would love to be part of a real family, where people talk to each other and care about each other and love each other. Down for each other no matter what. Where parents hug their children and everyone looks forward to seeing each other. Where they call each other regularly to say hello and see how each other's doing. Where there are big meals with lots of homemade food and games and stuff. And always willing to help you when you need.

i'd really love that actually.

elbe · Post by **elbe** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:46 pm

bellybelle wrote:i would love to be part of a real family, where people talk to each other and care about each other and love each other. Down for each other no matter what. Where parents hug their children and everyone looks forward to seeing each other. Where they call each other regularly to say hello and see how each other's doing. Where there are big meals with lots of homemade food and games and stuff. And always willing to help you when you need.

i'd really love that actually.

sorry belle but I don't think they actually exist.

gwa · Post by **gwa** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:52 pm

bellybelle wrote:i would love to be part of a real family, where people talk to each other and care about each other and love each other. Down for each other no matter what. Where parents hug their children and everyone looks forward to seeing each other. Where they call each other regularly to say hello and see how each other's doing. Where there are big meals with lots of homemade food and games and stuff. And always willing to help you when you need.

i'd really love that actually.

Join you on that one.

kins83 · Post by **kins83** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:53 pm

eLBe wrote:
bellybelle wrote:i would love to be part of a real family, where people talk to each other and care about each other and love each other. Down for each other no matter what. Where parents hug their children and everyone looks forward to seeing each other. Where they call each other regularly to say hello and see how each other's doing. Where there are big meals with lots of homemade food and games and stuff. And always willing to help you when you need.

i'd really love that actually.
sorry belle but I don't think they actually exist.

Family Broom is a bit like that. Probably why I'm such a pussy.

bellybelle · Post by **bellybelle** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:00 pm

kins83 wrote:
eLBe wrote:
bellybelle wrote:i would love to be part of a real family, where people talk to each other and care about each other and love each other. Down for each other no matter what. Where parents hug their children and everyone looks forward to seeing each other. Where they call each other regularly to say hello and see how each other's doing. Where there are big meals with lots of homemade food and games and stuff. And always willing to help you when you need.

i'd really love that actually.
sorry belle but I don't think they actually exist.
Family Broom is a bit like that. Probably why I'm such a pussy.

Over the past few years (like 10 or so), every guy i really dated dated had a nice family. With moms that care and get togethers. Warm households and the like. I was always so jealous of them for holidays and special occasions. They honestly liked each other. Wanted to actually spend time with each other. And not like this deep hostility that people ignored until a big fight (like my family). Like...they wanted to be there. Like, if they weren't family, they'd still be friends.

I think I'm too old to want that for me. Maybe I can make sure when I have a family, I'll do it that way. But the closer it gets to the end of the year, the more I remember how much I miss having a close family. Kinda sad actually. One of the saddest spots in my life.

elbe · Post by **elbe** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:11 pm

bellybelle wrote:
kins83 wrote:
eLBe wrote:
bellybelle wrote:i would love to be part of a real family, where people talk to each other and care about each other and love each other. Down for each other no matter what. Where parents hug their children and everyone looks forward to seeing each other. Where they call each other regularly to say hello and see how each other's doing. Where there are big meals with lots of homemade food and games and stuff. And always willing to help you when you need.

i'd really love that actually.
sorry belle but I don't think they actually exist.
Family Broom is a bit like that. Probably why I'm such a pussy.
Over the past few years (like 10 or so), every guy i really dated dated had a nice family. With moms that care and get togethers. Warm households and the like. I was always so jealous of them for holidays and special occasions. They honestly liked each other. Wanted to actually spend time with each other. And not like this deep hostility that people ignored until a big fight (like my family). Like...they wanted to be there. Like, if they weren't family, they'd still be friends.

I think I'm too old to want that for me. Maybe I can make sure when I have a family, I'll do it that way. But the closer it gets to the end of the year, the more I remember how much I miss having a close family. Kinda sad actually. One of the saddest spots in my life.

yeah seen, I know that my fam has got my back, but it has never been all rosey, like I don't know even a half of my fam, got loads over in Spain that I havn't seen for probly about 10 years or more now.

bellybelle wrote:Maybe I can make sure when I have a family

thats the important part, and probably the hardest.

MissBrass · Post by **MissBrass** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:28 pm

I miss someone so much right now that today, when I dialed their number by accident, I broke down and cried.

dubstepjustin · Post by **dubstepjustin** » Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:31 pm

eLBe wrote:
bellybelle wrote:
kins83 wrote:
eLBe wrote:
bellybelle wrote:i would love to be part of a real family, where people talk to each other and care about each other and love each other. Down for each other no matter what. Where parents hug their children and everyone looks forward to seeing each other. Where they call each other regularly to say hello and see how each other's doing. Where there are big meals with lots of homemade food and games and stuff. And always willing to help you when you need.

i'd really love that actually.
sorry belle but I don't think they actually exist.
Family Broom is a bit like that. Probably why I'm such a pussy.
Over the past few years (like 10 or so), every guy i really dated dated had a nice family. With moms that care and get togethers. Warm households and the like. I was always so jealous of them for holidays and special occasions. They honestly liked each other. Wanted to actually spend time with each other. And not like this deep hostility that people ignored until a big fight (like my family). Like...they wanted to be there. Like, if they weren't family, they'd still be friends.

I think I'm too old to want that for me. Maybe I can make sure when I have a family, I'll do it that way. But the closer it gets to the end of the year, the more I remember how much I miss having a close family. Kinda sad actually. One of the saddest spots in my life.
yeah seen, I know that my fam has got my back, but it has never been all rosey, like I don't know even a half of my fam, got loads over in Spain that I havn't seen for probly about 10 years or more now.

bellybelle wrote:Maybe I can make sure when I have a family
thats the important part, and probably the hardest.

It seems like when every kid in the family grows up, the parents die, and the whole family goes to hell and/or gets separated some way or another. So i guess the advice would be: keep close and stay in touch. Be nice to relatives.

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