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ffs still goping
this is dubstep forum
for dubstep
not hwining about a girl
do you even dubstep etc or just come here to get attention m8

alphacat wrote:I remember what it was like to be young and have feelings that were overwhelming. Now I'm just bitter and jaded and old.

This made me sad. I don't feel many strong emotions at all anymore, and I'm just 17. Even got a kinda-gf and everything. What if I'm missing out on feeling alive? Shit, time to go think in the corner.

do you even dbstp m8

Harkat wrote:

alphacat wrote:I remember what it was like to be young and have feelings that were overwhelming. Now I'm just bitter and jaded and old.

This made me sad. I don't feel many strong emotions at all anymore, and I'm just 17. Even got a kinda-gf and everything. What if I'm missing out on feeling alive? Shit, time to go think in the corner.

welcome to being 17.

18 gets better.

OfficialDAPT wrote:Damn he is just getting ripped apart

did he died?

incnic wrote:ffs still goping
this is dubstep forum
for dubstep
not hwining about a girl
do you even dubstep etc or just come here to get attention m8

Can't often fault you incnic but this is the off-topic area..

@Genevieve: yeah man you def have some very valid points. but idk i just wanted us both to kinda start on a new slate and forget the past and actually try. that was the plan, but it didnt work. so for now ill just let it be. maybe it will workout in the future or maybe like you said ill be like fuck i cant believe i stayed with her for that long. she did put me through a lot of shit, as i put her through my own shit when i was not as loving as i could have been. but i cant really bang any random girls right now. as pussy as it sounds i still feel like im together with her and am not in the right mindset to toss game at girls. sucks because when i go to parties or bars im just not in that mindset to mingle. id rather just chill with my boys for now.

^ and yes ofc i dubstep etc m8. do you not see me in the production forum?

gwa wrote:this place has lost direction. this places needs a leader. i'm stepping up to full that role because we need change.

I always knew you had it in you.

so Lyons is Eat Bass...hmmm
I'll admit to feeling sympathetic
obviously it wasn't a fling
and 17 to 21 is an intense time
imo ignore advice to go out fucking
instead, sit at home & enjoy your stewing over losing a love
it doesn't happen that often
neither of you were at fault
take your time to acclimatize to being a singleton
rethink what you are & want
and set a deadline for ending the wallow in grog.
You'll soon chalk it up as another growth point
but it will always be with you.

Eat Bass wrote:@Genevieve: yeah man you def have some very valid points. but idk i just wanted us both to kinda start on a new slate and forget the past and actually try. that was the plan, but it didnt work. so for now ill just let it be. maybe it will workout in the future or maybe like you said ill be like fuck i cant believe i stayed with her for that long. she did put me through a lot of shit, as i put her through my own shit when i was not as loving as i could have been. but i cant really bang any random girls right now. as pussy as it sounds i still feel like im together with her and am not in the right mindset to toss game at girls. sucks because when i go to parties or bars im just not in that mindset to mingle. id rather just chill with my boys for now.

That's not pussy, it's human. Banging some gurls will come with time and it'll help you forget her.

Well, what you want and what reality's like can be two very different things. With the girl I mentioned earlier, I also just wanted to work things out but she was very unco-operative.. and then? Me trying to push her into it only caused more friction and made everything worse. Probably woulda been better if I'd just said my goodbyes early to avoid a lot of stress (oh hindsight...). It's about being honest with yourself about the reality and less about what you want.

In my experience, you don't only grow 'wiser', but really just more tired of people's bullshit. I've always had to deal with girls who can't make up their mind about me (going back and forth between wanting to be with me and then doubting that), and for a few years that limbo was killing me. But now I'm just at this point where I've completely depleted my 'caring reserves' for that and if a girl tries to pull that on me now I just give her the boot. I can't just always be expected to wait on a girl if she wants me or not.

Being in a four year relationship you've probably missed out a lot on that. But you'll get there sooner or later. You'll start seeing warning signs that things won't work out sooner and sooner and then you just stop putting energy in people that aren't really worth it.

Finding someone you're compatible with is really just wading through a lot of bullshit. It's a lot harder to come across that than let's say, a good tune, which in itself is rare haha.

If she has given you shit for kissing another girl before, do you think she will ever be able to get over it? I've been through a bad breakup with my ex girlfriend and it took me almost a year to get over her. Sometimes you have to let the person go if you truly love them.

Good luck bro

sd5 wrote:

gwa wrote:this place has lost direction. this places needs a leader. i'm stepping up to full that role because we need change.

I always knew you had it in you.

so Lyons is Eat Bass...hmmm
I'll admit to feeling sympathetic
obviously it wasn't a fling
and 17 to 21 is an intense time
imo ignore advice to go out fucking
instead, sit at home & enjoy your stewing over losing a love
it doesn't happen that often
neither of you were at fault
take your time to acclimatize to being a singleton
rethink what you are & want
and set a deadline for ending the wallow in grog.
You'll soon chalk it up as another growth point
but it will always be with you.

yes i am lyons. and thanks for the wise words. well said. not going to lie the always with me part made me sad because right now i still kinda feel like i always want to be with her, not have our experience always with me as a thought. but im sure ill grow and change my feelings.

Genevieve wrote:

Eat Bass wrote:@Genevieve: yeah man you def have some very valid points. but idk i just wanted us both to kinda start on a new slate and forget the past and actually try. that was the plan, but it didnt work. so for now ill just let it be. maybe it will workout in the future or maybe like you said ill be like fuck i cant believe i stayed with her for that long. she did put me through a lot of shit, as i put her through my own shit when i was not as loving as i could have been. but i cant really bang any random girls right now. as pussy as it sounds i still feel like im together with her and am not in the right mindset to toss game at girls. sucks because when i go to parties or bars im just not in that mindset to mingle. id rather just chill with my boys for now.

That's not pussy, it's human. Banging some gurls will come with time and it'll help you forget her.

Well, what you want and what reality's like can be two very different things. With the girl I mentioned earlier, I also just wanted to work things out but she was very unco-operative.. and then? Me trying to push her into it only caused more friction and made everything worse. Probably woulda been better if I'd just said my goodbyes early to avoid a lot of stress (oh hindsight...). It's about being honest with yourself about the reality and less about what you want.

In my experience, you don't only grow 'wiser', but really just more tired of people's bullshit. I've always had to deal with girls who can't make up their mind about me (going back and forth between wanting to be with me and then doubting that), and for a few years that limbo was killing me. But now I'm just at this point where I've completely depleted my 'caring reserves' for that and if a girl tries to pull that on me now I just give her the boot. I can't just always be expected to wait on a girl if she wants me or not.

Being in a four year relationship you've probably missed out a lot on that. But you'll get there sooner or later. You'll start seeing warning signs that things won't work out sooner and sooner and then you just stop putting energy in people that aren't really worth it.

Finding someone you're compatible with is really just wading through a lot of bullshit. It's a lot harder to come across that than let's say, a good tune, which in itself is rare haha.

true man, but i believe we could be good together with some work and growth. my thought is nothing good comes easy, and love doesn't work by chance it works by effort and sacrifice. but yeah i did miss out on some of that experience dating the same girl for so long during a crucial period of life. also i feel like i caught my girl at the wrong time because now everythings fucked but i feel like if i just met her now and we went through our coarse, we could be marriage material. but being so young and having an unhealthy relationship just fucked everything and now we both probably want other people, but at the same time i kind of feel like it could be her and i wouldn't hook up with another girl ever for her. it also doesn't help that shes a model so this break up makes it 10x harder on me because she gets A LOT of attention. i know thats kind of shallow, but its the truth.

IMO, when it comes to relationships, it does come good easy, if you've gotta push things or constantly work to keep it together, it's not gonna work m8

Fuck love.





















Simple answer: realize wasn't meant to be, move on' find comfort in friends' Also realize now that you're single there's another one out there somewhere. Though if its long term starting over sometimes sucks.

garethom wrote:IMO, when it comes to relationships, it does come good easy, if you've gotta push things or constantly work to keep it together, it's not gonna work m8

Care to rephrase that?

Haha. I meant, if you're well suited to each other, then you shouldn't have to "work", you should just fit together easily.

Haha I completely agree, thought that was what you meant but I spent a good 30 seconds scratching my head trying to work out if I was reading that bit wrong. I've known so many couples that fight all the time and constantly talk about how hard relationships are, and these are always the ones constantly throwing their relationship in people's faces to make sure no one forgets they 'love' each other. Meanwhile other couples are just getting on with it, keeping private and having a nice time of it.

kidshuffle wrote:and enlist me in the army gwa. do it

you're second in command!!!! you know this

I'm only a bodyguard!!!

IMO the whole point of failed relationships is to make you channel that negative energy in to something positive. Make some music. Draw some art. Take up photography or something. Learn a language. Learn some code. Drinking beer/taking drugs and feeling sorry for yourself does no good man. I split up from a 4 year relationship at the end of last year but I feel better than ever now! Keep at it