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dz wrote:I have been married, divorced, and had 2 very long relationships all end BECAUSE i will not compromise my music production time. I can say that I don't see myself with a girlfriend for a looooooooooooong time.

decklyn wrote:werd. also going through a divorce.
No compromising! Only perfect 10s from here on in.

IMO (now) If a girl doesn't support and encourage your expression and art, then wtf - that's the same as not supporting and encouraging you on a personal level, as the beats we make are reflections of our selves.

Right now, I don't think I could see anyone that I didn't meet through dubstep somehow (!). That's pretty bad. haha. I'm going to be alone forever. Well, you know, swinging aside.

can I get an AMEN???!!!

unklefesta wrote:

dz wrote:I have been married, divorced, and had 2 very long relationships all end BECAUSE i will not compromise my music production time. I can say that I don't see myself with a girlfriend for a looooooooooooong time.

decklyn wrote:werd. also going through a divorce.
No compromising! Only perfect 10s from here on in.

IMO (now) If a girl doesn't support and encourage your expression and art, then wtf - that's the same as not supporting and encouraging you on a personal level, as the beats we make are reflections of our selves.

Right now, I don't think I could see anyone that I didn't meet through dubstep somehow (!). That's pretty bad. haha. I'm going to be alone forever. Well, you know, swinging aside.

can I get an AMEN???!!!

we should start a turntablist crew called "the Ex-Men"

chiggy chiggy chawww

what about making beats late-night?

do your thing w/the fam.. work.. play.. etc... then when the world sleeps.. do your other thing.

sleep is for people.

guerillaeye wrote:what about making beats late-night?



sleep is for people.

guerillaeye wrote:what about making beats late-night?

do your thing w/the fam.. work.. play.. etc... then when the world sleeps.. do your other thing.

sleep is for people.

then you'll get ..

hunny...come to bed

10 minutes later...

same shit

etc...

etc...

its simple hun.... we can fuck or i can make music.. im not tired.




oh.. goodnight.

guerillaeye wrote:its simple hun.... we can fuck or i can make music.. im not tired.




oh.. goodnight.

i've never had luck getting anyone to let me keep the music up that loud at night

....edit....


Apologies for starting this thread and assuming that Dubstep producers are male (Common knowledge that this is not the case)

I meant Relationships in general.

Well lots of this is very familiar.

Between full-time work and a demanding g/f, finding time to push forward with production is tough...
And it looks like the future is grim, judging by the older heads experience...
I try to just set aside entire weekends for production, and get a couple hours here and there during the week to flesh out some ideas to work on on the weekend.

Ok, i'll finsh up right here just incase my girl reads this on some kinda info recon mission.

Right on Whineo, no problem.
My fella and I live together. We both produce, DJ, do an FM radio show & throw parties... He's spinning some tunes as I write this. I couldn't be happier.

decklyn wrote:If a girl doesn't support and encourage your expression and art, then wtf - that's the same as not supporting and encouraging you on a personal level

Agreed. Support should come organically when you care about someone, you should never need to ask for it.

And I hope all of you who balance production and relationships are supportive of your better half's hobbies, if you ask that they be supportive of yours!

ive been with my girl for almost 3 years.
We still dont live together, so that gives us some space.
But seriously if you are with someone who expects you to be giving them attention 24/7 then they are not being realistic, irrespectative of whether you making music or not.
If you are starting out a relationship , avoid that trap!
If they cant handle some space, then it's them that has the problem, not you.

I could never be with someone who doesn't feel the same way about music as I do. There wouldn't really be that much in common, since I spend most of my free time doing stuff that is music-related.

My boyfriend and I met at a dubstep party about one and a half years ago. I don't think there will be a problem with managing a relationship and producing music if you just choose the right one - maybe I'm a bit idealistic though, since it worked out so nicely for me.

dirtycash wrote:But seriously if you are with someone who expects you to be giving them attention 24/7 then they are not being realistic, irrespectative of whether you making music or not.

If they cant handle some space, then it's them that has the problem, not you.

Its difficult - because when Im making a tune Im full focused on it - she thinks that when Im down in the dumps its because of her - when really its because I cant get a bassline to sit nicely with a kick drum - but I don't think that she will ever understand how someone can get depressed about this type of thing.

ah that old chestnut...

IMO it's all about the balance... My current missus is very supportive of my music and understands when i want to lock myself away for the weekend to make tunes...My ex on the other had was a complete nightmare.. hence why shes an ex...

I still think having a g/f or any serious comitment hinders making tunes, back in my yout with very minimal commitments i'd be banging out tracks but nowadays i can only write when i can which does frustrate me but its the way it is cos I have to work full time, last year of degree, see the g/f, make tunes, try and see mates etc, not enough hours in the week, it a bitch.... bring on the coffee!!!

i also find that when you think oh ive got the weekend to make tracks it can also hinder creativity cos i feel like i have to perform at that time and then the dreaded block can happen... pub it is then!!

i dont live with mine..so i have plenty of spare time for vinyl..net..etc..i dont produce...and sometimes i still feel i dont have enuff time...

well thats the jist i get when she comes round and all i do is sit here still like...i do still speak to her though...at least 1 or 2 times a nite

shes not into dubstep, breakcore, hardcore techno or drum and bass which is what i like...but she does put up with it now and again..mostly in the car...so cant knock her 4 that...

would be cool to be with some 1 who had a similar passion 4 it all though

my last girlfreind liked a singalong in the car etc, and didn't mind going to live gigs, but she just couldn't understand how someone could be as into music as I was. She didn't own any CD's which totaly freaked me out. I remember when I first went to her place "where is your music?" "what do you mean?"
She used to tell me I had an addiction, and she would find it funny when I came home with $100 worth of vinyl and cd's, but it she never really complained about it.
one time though, it was the first time I thought 'who on earth is this girl?' when we where out drinking, I came across a music store and there was an album I had been looking for for ages. I picked it up and she told me to take it back because "you need to stop buying so much music, it's becomoing a problem for you" She was pretty serious and disapointed in me.

I felt like I was being told to stop breathing.

DONT LIVE WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND IF YOU WANT TO BE PRODUCTIVE!

TRUST ME!! haha



vinsun

been with my girl for over 7 years and have been living with her for 6 of them. she completely understands me and knows everything i'm about, but sometimes she does get on me about spending too much time producing and listening to my music. you need balance for any relationship to work. if you're with someone that doesn't appreciate or respect your interests, then there is no point being with them.

I salute anyone who can balance music, work and a serious relationship