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Jhonny2x4 wrote:A lot of good replies and advice here. To respond to a few of them:

Most of them do have jobs, going to school, etc. but for the most part have low ambition (not necessarily due to weed but just in general).

For me it's a vicious circle. Smoke weed, no ambition to do anything else, smoke weed, rinse repeat, (not for me personally)

signals wrote:friends with kids and are stoners are usualy boring.

um, no

they dont party a lot.

He's right though

im boring most the im though

I smoke weed most days and I enjoy going out and doing stuff and hanging about with mates etc. But I have met people who've just smoked their minds to mush and its sad to see. Having said that I knew one guy like this and he was literally the happiest guy I've ever known, no matter what happened he'd smile and laugh it off.

signals wrote:they dont party a lot.

That's kids for ya

kids party playing games and watching movies. when there teens

My daughter's definition of party: read a book, ie nerd party.

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wolf89 wrote:Now it could be that your mates are a bit boring.

Also though the weed could be not helping. I bet no-one else backs me up here because they all smoke but while not true for everyone weed can make some people really boring and lazy. Largely because they smoke too much of it

(Yes Magma I know you aren't one of them before you talk about smoking every day. haha)

Tbh, I largely agree. I'm not convinced it's the weed that makes people boring/lazy, but it *definitely* reinforces people's habits if they're already a bit boring and lazy.

I've never been a 24/7 stoner, but I've smoked most nights after work since I was about 19/20... generally only once I've finished all my plans and have nothing to do before bed nowadays though. I used to be able to get caned on a Saturday afternoon, then go out clubbing, chain smoke spliffs and still be on the floor til first Tubes... that'd be a struggle these days, I think... but I'm not entirely sure how much of that is the weed and how much is the advancing years.

I wouldn't recommend people getting into daily smoking tbh. Almost anything becomes less enjoyable once it's become habitual... I absolutely LOVE weed, but I'd prefer to see it as a treat rather than such a regular thing. The problem is that it suits my psyche SO much... I've never been much of a drinker, I've never really "got" alcohol tbh - it makes me act like a dick and then be sick on my shoes - but people find it hard to tell if I'm stoned or not... it feels like such a 'natural' change to me; everything's the same, just a little bit better. Which is probably why I find it a little difficult not to smoke if I've got dope in the house. I used to have a rule that if I was too caned to skin up, I wouldn't skin up - I *never* reached that point. Different drugs really do suit different brains... my brain has always felt like it was pre-programmed to get stoned. It loves it.,.. it learns better, it smiles better, it hears better and it fucks better... entirely the opposite of how I experience alcohol.

Well, that was about as rambley as a stoner's supposed to sound... I'm going to go home and skin up.

Being around stoned people when you're not is horrible, the odd times I do still smoke these days is to avoid that

nowaysj wrote:

gwa wrote:I smoke but only by myself really, and that's very weak joints as it is. my brother (best mate since i was born) started smoking a lot later than me and it's really sad that over the last year i have hardly seen him as all he wants to do is get stoned in his flat and play on a football manager game.

it's wound me up so much but whatever I try and suggest he won't have non of it. I never go out for a pint with him, I never do anything other than sitting in his flat getting stoned whilst he sits there playing his game.

I've completely cut off contact with him as it wa always me getting in touch with him.. so until he wants to change I'm not gonna bother.

It's really sad as we grew up together and he is family to me but whatever.. I'm not gonna succumb to someone because they don't want to do anything other than staying in.

Is this post legit? The most heartfelt post I've read from you in 5 years. Sounds like there are deeper emotional issues at work on your bro. Sounds like depression to me.


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J2X, you have history with your friends, but no future. They are going in a different direction in life. Let them go their way, you go your way. You can still get together from time to time, maybe certain individuals will start to tire of their limited existence and move on a bit, you can help them return to the world. But just let them be, and try to find people that share your interests. And do it fast. As people get older, they get more and more closed off, ultimately to have no room for any new friends in their lives. If you are playing musical chairs, and are left standing, you may never have a good group of friends again.

yes ofcourse it's legit.

i probably do maybe like 2 "heartfelt" posts a year tho lol

save them for the right moment.

anyway, he got in touch with me on xmas eve but i was smashed so didn't answer as he doesn't condone drinking and hard drugs (I was off it at the time).. sent him a text on xmas day but he hasn't responded to it since.

he's even been going round telling people including my mum that i'm the one that's being a stranger... seriously!!!