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say_whut wrote:

Mr Hyde wrote:Facebook

My mates last 2 girlfriends have been through facebook. One lasted for about a month and a half, his latest has been with him for just over a year now. Personally, I don't even know how to initiate that shit, especially if it's a hot girl from school you didn't really speak to. Not that thats relevant to me

I mentioned it cos there was hate for Facebook by OP in another thread. But yeah I've gone out with a couple of girls sort of through Facebook, something along the lines of- go to party have a quick chat with someone without really aiming to chat them up, few days later notice who they are through friends of friends on Facebook then you've got a pressure free way of 'friending' then messaging some sort of 'sorry we didn't get around to chatting much, wanna meet up' ...sort of thing. Obviously could have happened without Facebook, and would never have happened without friends and talking to new people at parties, but I think there are a couple of times with girls I wouldn't have seen again by chance and wouldn't have bothered hassling through friends to get numbers.

say_whut wrote:

Mr Hyde wrote:Facebook

My mates last 2 girlfriends have been through facebook. One lasted for about a month and a half, his latest has been with him for just over a year now. Personally, I don't even know how to initiate that shit, especially if it's a hot girl from school you didn't really speak to. Not that thats relevant to me

This! I added a friend of a friend the other day then thought "Hold up. I dont wanna be that creepy guy girls chat about who crack on to them over the net." and believe me I hear that a lot!

haw haw haw..

though i must say, having a fb is better than having a phone # these days.. its awkward to exchange #'s, tell it to someone as they type it in.. when u could just say "yeah, poke around on fb, you'll find me!" and they do....

but yeah fb is as good as the network you have.. mine was some middle aged cousins, my brother, and his wife.
Basically the underlying problem is that i have no social outlets whatsoever

say_whut wrote:

Mr Hyde wrote:Facebook

My mates last 2 girlfriends have been through facebook. One lasted for about a month and a half, his latest has been with him for just over a year now. Personally, I don't even know how to initiate that shit, especially if it's a hot girl from school you didn't really speak to. Not that thats relevant to me

have you tried 'hello' ??

noam wrote:

say_whut wrote:

Mr Hyde wrote:Facebook

My mates last 2 girlfriends have been through facebook. One lasted for about a month and a half, his latest has been with him for just over a year now. Personally, I don't even know how to initiate that shit, especially if it's a hot girl from school you didn't really speak to. Not that thats relevant to me

have you tried 'hello' ??

Nah, because:

defoxster wrote:I dont wanna be that creepy guy girls chat about who crack on to them over the net.

Plus, her mate is the one is the one going out with my mate - the couple I mentioned that got together through Facebook. Plus, they stay in Edinburgh so it'd be a distance ting. I know my mate and his gf are making subtle moves (through Facebook, of all places would you believe) to get something going.

say_whut wrote:

noam wrote:

say_whut wrote:

Mr Hyde wrote:Facebook

My mates last 2 girlfriends have been through facebook. One lasted for about a month and a half, his latest has been with him for just over a year now. Personally, I don't even know how to initiate that shit, especially if it's a hot girl from school you didn't really speak to. Not that thats relevant to me

have you tried 'hello' ??

Nah, because:

defoxster wrote:I dont wanna be that creepy guy girls chat about who crack on to them over the net.

Plus, her mate is the one is the one going out with my mate - the couple I mentioned that got together through Facebook. Plus, they stay in Edinburgh so it'd be a distance ting. I know my mate and his gf are making subtle moves (through Facebook, of all places would you believe) to get something going.

You just gotta use that "poke" button.

Raggles wrote:

say_whut wrote:

noam wrote:

say_whut wrote:

Mr Hyde wrote:Facebook

My mates last 2 girlfriends have been through facebook. One lasted for about a month and a half, his latest has been with him for just over a year now. Personally, I don't even know how to initiate that shit, especially if it's a hot girl from school you didn't really speak to. Not that thats relevant to me

have you tried 'hello' ??

Nah, because:

defoxster wrote:I dont wanna be that creepy guy girls chat about who crack on to them over the net.

Plus, her mate is the one is the one going out with my mate - the couple I mentioned that got together through Facebook. Plus, they stay in Edinburgh so it'd be a distance ting. I know my mate and his gf are making subtle moves (through Facebook, of all places would you believe) to get something going.

You just gotta use that "poke" button.

if you add a chick on facebook and dont talk to her at least to say hello (if you added her for social reasons) then you kind of already ARE that creepy dude

i aint sayin i chat to everyone on my facebook, far from it, but i wouldn't not say hello to someone on there cos i thought initiating conversation with them is creepy, its just saying 'hi, hows it going '

done.

tell the girl you think she is gorgeous, give her your most confident/friendly/not creepy smile, and then go do your own thing for 20 minutes. she will see you having a good time, dancing. then, when you two make random eye contact 20 minutes after the initial smile, you walk up to her and start talking to her. dont talk about yourself too much. let her know you're unique and you have your own things you're interested in and passionate about. ask her about herself, what she likes to do. if she says "i like to party"... you're in!

^^^^^^^^^^
what he said

eyeatus wrote:tell the girl you think she is gorgeous, give her your most confident/friendly/not creepy smile, and then go do your own thing for 20 minutes. she will see you having a good time, dancing. then, when you two make random eye contact 20 minutes after the initial smile, you walk up to her and start talking to her. dont talk about yourself too much. let her know you're unique and you have your own things you're interested in and passionate about. ask her about herself, what she likes to do. if she says "i like to party"... you're in!

you sound like a swell guy

i wish i could be like you

dont try meet girls at the pub thats my advice, they end up blowing you off for darts tournaments

+1 oh well.. my moment will come

I kind of feel I've hijacked the thread by chatting about a girl I am not too fussed about pursuing, sorry OP!

become a cosmetician/hairdresser,
hang around maternity wards,
train a netball team,
join the mosh at Beiber/Williams concerts,
go to dance classes
or attend small protestant churches

I know they'd work
but I've never been that desperate.

eyeatus wrote:tell the girl you think she is gorgeous, give her your most confident/friendly/not creepy smile, and then go do your own thing for 20 minutes. she will see you having a good time, dancing. then, when you two make random eye contact 20 minutes after the initial smile, you walk up to her and start talking to her. dont talk about yourself too much. let her know you're unique and you have your own things you're interested in and passionate about. ask her about herself, what she likes to do. if she says "i like to party"... you're in!

^ This works cuz you aren't such a creep by sticking around/bugging her. So you initiate with the "Hey" /small talk/name exchange/compliment/leave for a little/come back/then talk and do everything.

Why? So you make a small imprint in her brain that is pretty much a huge impact when you leave so soon then comeback. She feels that you're special. When you stay there the whole time and try to talk to her she loses interest fast and thinks your a typical dude being so desperate.

But I gotta say.....if the girl leaves and you can't find her...you're out of luck! P.S this happened to me on New Years Eve :'( Such a beautiful girl at the Flux show. This girl was in a black dress sitting at the tables by herself so I felt like superman while rolling. And I'm 19 and I'd say this girl was like 20-24 haha. Blondey! So me & some buddies came back to rest for a lil and she was there and he wanted to talk to her so bad. I told him to but he didn't have the balls to. So I did exactly what eyeatus said ^ and she said she was waiting for her friend that was dancing on stage to be done. And SHE WAS ALONE. And DIDN'T HAVE ANYONE TO DANCE WITH. AND SHE WAS SOBER. Had a 5minute chat with her. She was so beautiful & nice & sober. I should've just stayed and kept talking to her. ((((((( I'M SADDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD. She had such a cute fkin smile. And was interested. I said I'll be back I'm gonna go get some water with my friend and I'll see you later and smiled. But fkin forgot to comeback. And when I did she was gone . Fk YOu MOLLY! >:I /EndRant

Btw one hugeeeee thing girls like and it's a +1 is having a sense of fashion. So dress like a boss when you go out. Button up with nothing underneath/top is unbuttoned. Or V-neck shirt underneath. Some nice jeans. Good shoes. etc. Don't look like a bum.

If you're dressed hella good everyday/standing out with style. You'll look good even when you're ugly. Vice versa etc.

Can't be a T-shirt wearing bum wearing athletic shoes. No-go broseph.

Its all about sewing seeds when your not looking for a women, then going back when ready.

Women feel, so send some good vibes their way, when you meet someone your attracted to, put out the intention to be with them, and do your best to let the intention manifest itself. There's not a whole lot of deliberation, you'll know if she likes you, I like to run with the romance, till they get sick of me, but I've always managed to remain on good terms with my EX'z.

daeMTHAFKNkim wrote:

eyeatus wrote:tell the girl you think she is gorgeous, give her your most confident/friendly/not creepy smile, and then go do your own thing for 20 minutes. she will see you having a good time, dancing. then, when you two make random eye contact 20 minutes after the initial smile, you walk up to her and start talking to her. dont talk about yourself too much. let her know you're unique and you have your own things you're interested in and passionate about. ask her about herself, what she likes to do. if she says "i like to party"... you're in!

^ This works cuz you aren't such a creep by sticking around/bugging her. So you initiate with the "Hey" /small talk/name exchange/compliment/leave for a little/come back/then talk and do everything.

Why? So you make a small imprint in her brain that is pretty much a huge impact when you leave so soon then comeback. She feels that you're special. When you stay there the whole time and try to talk to her she loses interest fast and thinks your a typical dude being so desperate.

But I gotta say.....if the girl leaves and you can't find her...you're out of luck! P.S this happened to me on New Years Eve :'( Such a beautiful girl at the Flux show. This girl was in a black dress sitting at the tables by herself so I felt like superman while rolling. And I'm 19 and I'd say this girl was like 20-24 haha. Blondey! So me & some buddies came back to rest for a lil and she was there and he wanted to talk to her so bad. I told him to but he didn't have the balls to. So I did exactly what eyeatus said ^ and she said she was waiting for her friend that was dancing on stage to be done. And SHE WAS ALONE. And DIDN'T HAVE ANYONE TO DANCE WITH. AND SHE WAS SOBER. Had a 5minute chat with her. She was so beautiful & nice & sober. I should've just stayed and kept talking to her. ((((((( I'M SADDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD. She had such a cute fkin smile. And was interested. I said I'll be back I'm gonna go get some water with my friend and I'll see you later and smiled. But fkin forgot to comeback. And when I did she was gone . Fk YOu MOLLY! >:I /EndRant

Btw one hugeeeee thing girls like and it's a +1 is having a sense of fashion. So dress like a boss when you go out. Button up with nothing underneath/top is unbuttoned. Or V-neck shirt underneath. Some nice jeans. Good shoes. etc. Don't look like a bum.

If you're dressed hella good everyday/standing out with style. You'll look good even when you're ugly. Vice versa etc.

Can't be a T-shirt wearing bum wearing athletic shoes. No-go broseph.

Only wear a V neck if you want to pick up men!

daeMTHAFKNkim wrote:

eyeatus wrote:tell the girl you think she is gorgeous, give her your most confident/friendly/not creepy smile, and then go do your own thing for 20 minutes. she will see you having a good time, dancing. then, when you two make random eye contact 20 minutes after the initial smile, you walk up to her and start talking to her. dont talk about yourself too much. let her know you're unique and you have your own things you're interested in and passionate about. ask her about herself, what she likes to do. if she says "i like to party"... you're in!

^ This works cuz you aren't such a creep by sticking around/bugging her. So you initiate with the "Hey" /small talk/name exchange/compliment/leave for a little/come back/then talk and do everything.

Why? So you make a small imprint in her brain that is pretty much a huge impact when you leave so soon then comeback. She feels that you're special. When you stay there the whole time and try to talk to her she loses interest fast and thinks your a typical dude being so desperate.

But I gotta say.....if the girl leaves and you can't find her...you're out of luck! P.S this happened to me on New Years Eve :'( Such a beautiful girl at the Flux show. This girl was in a black dress sitting at the tables by herself so I felt like superman while rolling. And I'm 19 and I'd say this girl was like 20-24 haha. Blondey! So me & some buddies came back to rest for a lil and she was there and he wanted to talk to her so bad. I told him to but he didn't have the balls to. So I did exactly what eyeatus said ^ and she said she was waiting for her friend that was dancing on stage to be done. And SHE WAS ALONE. And DIDN'T HAVE ANYONE TO DANCE WITH. AND SHE WAS SOBER. Had a 5minute chat with her. She was so beautiful & nice & sober. I should've just stayed and kept talking to her. ((((((( I'M SADDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD. She had such a cute fkin smile. And was interested. I said I'll be back I'm gonna go get some water with my friend and I'll see you later and smiled. But fkin forgot to comeback. And when I did she was gone . Fk YOu MOLLY! >:I /EndRant

Btw one hugeeeee thing girls like and it's a +1 is having a sense of fashion. So dress like a boss when you go out. Button up with nothing underneath/top is unbuttoned. Or V-neck shirt underneath. Some nice jeans. Good shoes. etc. Don't look like a bum.

If you're dressed hella good everyday/standing out with style. You'll look good even when you're ugly. Vice versa etc.

Can't be a T-shirt wearing bum wearing athletic shoes. No-go broseph.

when she said she didnt have anyone to dance with, that's when you do the crip walk - to gentleman's bow - to hand fliparoo - to her hand - and say "my lady? " (another one of those confident/friendly/not creepy smiles but with a little more enthusiasm)

no on the v-neck, maybe a long sleeve button up flannel that correlates to colors of hat or shoes.

girls like jewelry too. diamonds are too bling for me. i have this sterling silver snake ring w/ crazy scales all over it, that my sister made.

Not sure SNH is really the place to ask for advice on meeting women. I mean...look at us.