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just a little down today and needed somewhere to get out my feelings.
here goes nothin-

so theres this girl at my college in my astronomy class thats been flirting with me since this semester started. we always sit next to each other and recently we've been passing notes back and forth because we can't talk very loud in class. she's really cute, is really flirtatious and just last week she found me on facebook and added me (which i was surprised, cuz that means she took note of my full name in class. would usually be creeped out, but shes reallyyyy cute). we talked on facebook chat for about 2 hours and got to know each other a little bit. now this week of class on wednesday we were passing notes and she hinted at wanting to ditch class and go get some dessert at a restaurant. so we took my car and talked for about an hour n a half and had a really fun time getting to know each other. i took her back, and that was that. i have her number, and i was texting her today but she was being a bit standoffish. also, she does have a boyfriend but at the same time, why would she be acting the way she does around me and adding me on facebook and ditching class to chill with me?

so im just in a bind as what to do next... do i just play it cool and be friends with her and see what happens? should i not get my hopes up and realize that maybe she just wants to be friends? the thing here is that my last relationship was at least two years ago, and it ended up badly which sent me into some depression. so its been awhile since i've had feelings for a girl, and i'm really starting to like this chick - she's really awesome. and im afraid of being hurt again. love is a bitch. i just want to know what you guys think about all this, it would be nice to get an outside perspective. especially from some girls if there are any on here. i know im gonna get some assholes making fun of me on here, and callin me a pussy but i dont really care. as long as i get someone to give me some encouragement thats all i ask.

thanks everyone, hope all is well

siberia wrote:....also, she does have a boyfriend.....

....and i'm really starting to like this chick - she's really awesome...

I don't think chicks that cheat on their "boyfriends" are awesome. If she does it to him, she'll do it to you. Be smart. She probably just wants to hook-up recreationally and she can tell you're wanting a relationship.

I think maybe the "dessert" was a code for "sex" and you missed it.

She has a boyfriend. She sounds like a cocktease. Forget it.

bass hertz wrote:

siberia wrote:....also, she does have a boyfriend.....

....and i'm really starting to like this chick - she's really awesome...

I don't think chicks that cheat on their "boyfriends" are awesome. If she does it to him, she'll do it to you. Be smart. She probably just wants to hook-up recreationally and she can tell you're wanting a relationship.

I think maybe the "dessert" was a code for "sex" and you missed it.

she named the specific restaurant she wanted to go to.. i highly doubt she wanted me to bang her in the backseat of my uncomfortable car.
and i know she has a boyfriend, but maybe the relationship isn't all that great and is looking for someone new. why would she be acting like this towards me if shes just a cocktease?

goddamn it why do i always have the worst fucking luck with girls

Did you pay for her meal?

yeah i did.

and i understand that this situation makes this girl look like a cheating whore... but shes really not like that. i really doubt she would let me make a move on her unless she ended it with her boyfriend first

I don't claim to understand women at all, but from experience, I think some birds like to still feel as if they have it. If she's been in a relationship a while, she might put about a bit just to get that 'single' feeling a bit, but she won't leave her boyfriend. Believe.

yeah i know... fuck my life

siberia wrote:yeah i know... fuck my life

women need confidence.

take charge.

i know, i know. so what should i do

You might want to start hanging around with a few people outside of your classes, though. I mean, I don't know shit, but I'd imagine an astronomy class to be full of prudes and, generally, not much game pussy.

Go down the pub with a few mates at lunchtime, and get talking to the other college-goers in there. People who study fake subjects like art and media will be down there shooting the shit as they've got time to kill, I'm sure. And there's allooottt of pussy in dem subjects.

astronomy class isnt the type of place i would normally think about picking up chicks in, but this girl is fine. and really smart.. i just don't know what i should do. just be her friend and see what happens i guess?

siberia wrote:
so theres this girl at my college in my astronomy class

wheatus lyric?

thats a wheatus lyric?

siberia wrote:thats a wheatus lyric?

no it just sounds like one.

just see what happens, could go either way.

Although sounds like you will probably end up getting fucked about a lot.

siberia wrote:also, she does have a boyfriend

Forget it, unless you want to be involved in a drama.

siberia wrote:but maybe the relationship isn't all that great and is looking for someone new

But still being with her boyfriend just in case someone new didn't work out?

im in the same kind of situation, theres me and my mate in a class and the rest are girls, some of them just give off that their cock hungry so easily. Distracting but cool at the same time

Yay something I can give advice on!

She's most likely using you to make herself feel better. Sorry
Because sometimes when us girls are in relationships for a while, we kind of need to know that we're still attractive to other blokes, so we flirt a bit, have a laugh and see what reaction we get.
She has a fella? If she wasn't happy with him she wouldn't be with him, that or she's too much of a wimp to end it.

But on the otherhand, she might actually like you, but never intended it to happen because she does have a fella.
So now she's confused.

You're best off just asking her what's going on and explaining how you feel.
Otherwise it will carry on, and there you are getting more and more confused.
If she is that good as person as you say she is, she'll still want to be your friend even if the feeling isn't mutual.
Hope I made sense in what I typed.
Good luck!