I'm A Failure...

[JimmaJamJamie]

I am too fucking lazy to go to college and it has been the same way through my whole life.

I only ever got 2 GCSE's, i (just about) have a First Diploma in IT and started the National Diploma this year and my attendance was like 50% from the start to now so i have decided to quit as i will be so far behind with the work. Now i don't know what to do with my life!

I am gonna take a year out to try and do some serious producing and in that time i am gonna train, then may join the Royal Marines but i am still not sure about what to do with my life haha.


Most of life is bullshit & Qualifications are bullshit!

[Pistonsbeneath]

your worth cannot be measured by pieces of paper be it cash monies or qualifications

none of this is real anyway...don't let them trick you into believing them

[diss04]

Your worth is measured by pieces of paper, be it cash monies or qualifications.

Don't let any successful black man tell you otherwise.

[Wolverine]

im in the same boat

[diss04]

...but seriously, don't you need qualifications to get into the Marines?



Is there a course called "I'm signing up to fight an enemy in a country on the other side of the world in a war which may or may not be about oil because rich upper-middle class tnuc MPs fucked up"?

[WatchYourStep]

A couple years ago I got kicked out of engineering school for poor academic performance (I've since been re-admitted). This year I was diagnosed w/ ADD and now I

[JimmaJamJamie]

...but seriously, don't you need qualifications to get into the Marines?



Is there a course called "I'm signing up to fight an enemy in a country on the other side of the world in a war which may or may not be about oil because rich upper-middle class tnuc MPs fucked up"?

Ha no you don't, its just proper challenging. My mate just passed his training so is a Marine now.

I just proper don't have a clue what to do with my life .

[ahier]

A couple years ago I got kicked out of engineering school for poor academic performance (I've since been re-admitted). This year I was diagnosed w/ ADD and now I

[bandshell]

I've been floating aimlessly doing nothing for about two years. I still have no idea what I want to do.

[Neurotik]

I was near enough in the same situation not so long ago. I fucked up big time in school because i was dumb enough to prioritise fitting in with the popular crowd and conforming to the "careless moron" image over achieving; my way of compensating for social anxiety. I wound up with shite grades and no idea of what was out there for me or what i wanted to do. Partially the school's fault but realistically i still had to take the majority of the responisibility. I spent 3 years after school not exactly doing anything, i wound up in a state of clinical depression twice until i'd had enough. I could either stick in the cycle of wallowing in self pity over the issues i hadn't yet dealt with or i could face upto them and change things.

*prepare to cringe abit lol* After spending some time working with a psychologist i gained insight into the root causes and the consequential self beliefs and behaviours to be able to do something about it and change it. I managed to deal with the fact that, in the past, i'd try and place a great deal of dependance on relationships and my expectations of other people and i gradually managed to build that trust and repsect i was looking for in myself rather than in others. And another big part of why i ended where i was at the time was my way of dealing with anxiety i would encouter, which were mainly avoidance and detachment. I would go out my way to avoid things that i was anxious about failing at (exams, interview days, work experience, interviews etc.), and i if did wind up doing it i would detach any personal feelings from what was causing me anxiety so i could rationalise it if i failed.

The more i began to challenge avoidance, the more i began to gain confidence in things i would develop interest in. Once i actually had the interest and aspiration to apply myself at something i found out just how much i'm capable of if i willing to commit to it. I soon found myself developing long term plans for doing psychology at uni and beyond. Obviously i had a problem with the fact i had not got the sufficient GCSE's to be able to do the A-levels to be able to go on and do the rest but instead of giving up at the 1st hurdle i spent a year doing resits and i started A-levels this past september. So far it's great, i'm spending time learning about something i'm interested in and i'm getting rewards for the hard work i put in with the good grades i'm getting.

As much as i do regret alot of the past i can't afford to dwell on it as if a can change any of it, it just wastes time that could be effectively used in changing the future. Reading back through what i've just written i have gone on a big long random life story but i hope you can find some relevance in it. Don't believe your life is a failure because it's just reinforcing negative feelings that could leave you in a much worse state. Rather than convincing yourself that you've failed, become aware of the fact you're in a position of awareness and are now able to set about changing things. Try and see things in a more positive light and i'm sure you'll find something you will develop long term aspirations with. We all have potential, we just find different ways to best exercise it. Good luck for the future man and stay optimistic.

[Chuckledust]

No way. I graduated from uni 7 years ago, and I've done nothing between now and then. Skipped from job to job for ages. Just signed up for the merchant navy. There might not be any decent tunes in the Arctic Circle, but I wasn't expecting any. If you work hard, you'll come out with a degree in two years.
Honestly, at your age, I'd throw myself out there before it's too late. You're clearly not stupid. Take the chance while you have it.

[WatchYourStep]

I like what Neurotik said about how you're in a position of self-awareness right now, that's exactly what I wanted to say but didn't have the words for it.

Btw, everything I said before is true, what with failing out of engineering and having add, I just thought it would be a funny joke to trail off midsentence given what I just said. But seriously, being in a position of self-awareness is a critical step towards understanding and harnessing your mind. From there you can take action towards fixing the negative habits in your life.

[nousd]

good advice fom WYS & Psychotic (who'll make a good psychotherapist no doubt)

Might be safer to get caught doing a robbery
than joining army
if you want certainty for a few years.

Probably doing the wrong course
but either bite the bullet & FINISH,
transfer NOW or experience the joy of not succeeding,
which includes reorienting towards what you are really going to do.

[BaronVon]

Drug dealing or prostitution are your only options.

[djacroama]

I am too fucking lazy to go to college and it has been the same way through my whole life.

I only ever got 2 GCSE's, i (just about) have a First Diploma in IT and started the National Diploma this year and my attendance was like 50% from the start to now so i have decided to quit as i will be so far behind with the work. Now i don't know what to do with my life!

I am gonna take a year out to try and do some serious producing and in that time i am gonna train, then may join the Royal Marines but i am still not sure about what to do with my life haha.


Most of life is bullshit & Qualifications are bullshit!

Mate, im the same. i didnt get a single GCSE (well, technically i got a few as i got loads of D's and E's which technically count), have had way too many jobs for a 24 year old and am now trying to hold down a job that pays £16k a year and has me working 6 day weeks (pretty much).

I thought about joining the army (from something along the lines of IT or communication) but you you have to actually have to be qualified out your arse to get a "safe" job in the army and I dont have the physical ability to be a "grunt"

a shit load of debt means i cant really bugger off to another country and try my luck there (well i could, but if i ever came back to visit the rents/friends id be jumped on)

luckily, music is my true passion and even if i never get a release or became a DJ thats booked every night, i dont really care as its making and spinning it that makes me happy <tear rolls down my right eye and glints in the sunlight>

Taking the year out might be good for you though mate. get some reflection in. Try meditating, a mate of mine did this a few years ago when he was going slightly off the rails and it sorted him out and now he's in a 55k a year job with a company car and he's the same age as me.... jammy git.

[missedthebus]

[missedthebus]

good advice fom WYS & Psychotic (who'll make a good psychotherapist no doubt)

Might be safer to get caught doing a robbery
than joining army
if you want certainty for a few years.

Probably doing the wrong course
but either bite the bullet & FINISH,
transfer NOW or experience the joy of not succeeding,
which includes reorienting towards what you are really going to do.

WISE WORDS

[tr0tsky]

Yeah join the Marines.

Because ex-squaddies don't have massive problems with unemployment, crime, addiction to drugs and alcohol, aren't the largest occupational group both in prisons and living homeless on the streets.

Also, you get to kill nig-nogs and pik-paks.

[bandshell]

Yeah join the Marines.

Because ex-squaddies don't have massive problems with unemployment, crime, addiction to drugs and alcohol, aren't the largest occupational group both in prisons and living homeless on the streets.

Also, you get to kill nig-nogs and pik-paks.

I'm convinced.

[missedthebus]

Yeah join the Marines.

Because ex-squaddies don't have massive problems with unemployment, crime, addiction to drugs and alcohol, aren't the largest occupational group both in prisons and living homeless on the streets.

Also, you get to kill nig-nogs and pik-paks.

I'm convinced.

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